Men - I need your take on this Summary: a guy that I dated in college have been in touch for many, many years. we're an off and on relationship. Each time we met, we would hit it off in the bedroom. Long story short, I've come to the conclusion that THAT is something we have in common, for sure. I'm very sensual and he's very passionate. We fit pretty well. (His words: That's one area I've always been happy about with you.) But, through the years, I've have this tinge of shame and guilt (religious guilt) due to not being married. You'd never know it, unless I told you. And, I guess I never told him. (Or any other boyfriend.) And, the last time we were planning on seeing each other again, he was very excited, but I backed out, because it was too much for me. I felt like he was waaay too into me. He's one of those, "I'm in it for good" kind of guys. It's all the way, or nothing, when it comes to love and relationships w/ this guy. Sometimes, it's a bit suffocating. I tend to be a bit of a free spirit. It's not that I don't care about him. I think I might even love him. Because I'm a free spirit, "settling down" hasn't been something I wanted to do, but when I think of all of the years that have passed and all of the men I've been with, he's the one who stands out the most, and whom I think of the most. The one who's made the most difference in my life. we've had our differences and fights, long ones, but I know he's the one I turn to, but he's an "all or nothing" kind of man. I love him, I think. How do I approach this, so I don't feel 'swallowed up' by his passions, and so I don't lose my individuality? I want to see him again, but he feels rejected by my need for freedom. I do love him. Isn't there room for compromise? How do I approach him? Your mature thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks.

Just to be clear, we have other things in common too, not just the sexual activities....lol

Keep him as a fuckbuddy. Your boyfriends don't

he would NEVER accept that he is the jealous kind....besides I'm not that kind either..... I cheated on an ex bf with THIS guy before..... I hated that. I hated myself for it. To this day, THIS guy doesn't know it.........even this last time, I was sort of ending a relationship with another guy, so I didn't want to pull THIS guy into my life. (I know it sounds like a lot of guys, but I've only been with 5 men my entire life.)

So you admit to being a cheating whore.

how gentlemanly of you --- you shouldn't talk, wash your mouth out with antibacterial soap.

Stay with him but have seperate bedrooms for

are you being serious?

he's he marrying kind. he'll do it once.

(the) marrying kind...i'm tired..it's x a.m.

You're not compatible. Even if he is the marrying kind, you're the fucking-around kind.

--why do you say that? I've only been with x men my entire life.

He is your boyfriend-face it

not exactly -- he's been out of my life for years at a time.

That does not mean anything,it's spiritual

okay......anything else you want to say? Do men think this way, too? Call me obtuse, but I didn't think most men had the capacity to think or feel that way....

yes they do

how come they don't come out and say they think this way?

idk but i do

Not most men

ok fine your fucking fake tough guys some men do

Some men do, until a bad experience with a cheating slut like you wakes them up and snaps them out of it.

and then that will fade and you will again x bro

what, dude?

Shit or get off the pot That reminds me. I need to poop.

have you no shame?

you're a free spirit with religious guilt... and you said you had a problem being with him out of wedlock, though you say he is "the marrying kind" sounds like youre just not as into him, or something is off

isn't there??? We've been doing this for over x yrs. He's been with other women, too, in between the relationships with me, but those never worked out. The main issue is that we've never lived in the same city, except for the first x yrs...... I think we both see that there's something special between us, that we haven't found or have captured with other partners.

your story has changed from the problem being to your locations i never said it "wasnt there" i said something was off. i was implying with you